Updated: Oct 19
When it comes to partnership, honesty with yourself is the best policy.
Look for the people who are emotionally available. Who is able to accept and validate you with minimal projection. Who are as willing to own their "stuff" as they are to challenge your narratives from a place of kindness and curiosity. Who are open to having the difficult conversations, and the boring but important ones. Who can hold space for you, themselves, and the issue at the same time. Who are compassionate without colluding. Who can zoom in and out. Who have faith in the unfolding nature of life, and trust you and themselves to always be doing their best.
The trouble with "someone has it worse"...
If we dismiss our own personal lived experience, we are forgetting that we are human too and every human is deserving of love and kindness. Yes, there are terrible things happening to people every day. Comparing our situation to others can tune us into gratitude and positive action, but if the intention of that comparison is to shame ourselves into suppressing our own pain, then we risk losing perspective. How we talk to ourselves is a powerful thing. As Buddha said - Your compassion is not complete if it does not include yourself. Someone else having a rough time does not mean you aren't. We all deserve love.
Confidence, a reminder...
So many people mistake confidence for competence, or certainty instead of self-trust.
Confidence is not:
"they will like me" (certainty) or
"I will be brilliant (competence)
"I will be fine if they don't like me" (self trust) or
"I can/will learn what I don't already know" (self trust/growth mindset).
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