Welcome to another set of monthly musings and food for thought. I hope these find you well and planning (or on!) holidays.
We cannot shame ourselves into change. We can only love ourselves into evolution...
The shame we carry (especially those of us whose brains are wired differently) robs us of the truest riches we can enjoy on this earth. Our energy and vitality. Shame freezes us into procrastination, forces us to live out unhealthy adaptations, and makes us physically sick.
Drop the shame and wrap your arms around yourself. Feel the difference it makes.
The moment we take responsibility is the moment we become capable of creating what we want. - Freya Blom
Responsibility is power.
"The idea is the whole thing. If you stay true to the idea, it tells you everything you need to know, really." David Lynch
"You just keep working to make it look like that idea looked, feel like it felt, sound like it sounded, and be the way it was. And it's weird, because when you veer off, you sort of know it. You know when you're doing something that is not correct because it feels incorrect. It says, 'No, no; this isn't like the idea said it was.' And when you're getting into it the correct way, it feels correct. It's an intuition: You feel-think your way through. You start one place, and as you go, it gets more and more finely tuned. But all along it's the idea talking. At some point, it feels correct to you. And you hope that it feels somewhat correct to others."
This doesn’t only apply to creative ideas. It applies to alignment in general. Notice when things feel incorrect, even slightly, and adjust course. Your quality of life and experience will thank you for it.
"Knowing what you actually want and need is a natural state of being. Anything else is rooted in fear or misunderstanding of some kind"
When I say knowing what you "want" - I don't mean "things" I mean knowing the direction that feels most natural to you. We humans mostly need and want universally human feelings and experiences. Some of those are accessed via "things", but many aren't.
"There is a life force within your soul, seek that life. There is a gem in the mountain of your body, seek that mine. O Traveler, if you are in search of that, don't look outside, look inside yourself and seek that." - Rumi
All too often in relationships, we look to our partner to provide things to us which are accessible only from our inner world. We can attempt to outsource joy, love, connection and safety, and while it is indeed possible for us to experience these in relation with other people (how else could we be nurtured by a parent) at the same time, if we are no longer under our parents care and all we do is look to replace the caregivers, rather than look inside and find our own riches, we will be forever beholden to (and so often resentful of) other peoples capacity (and desire!) to meet our needs. I am not saying that we should not look to love and support one another, only that the main work is to look inside and find what already exists within each of us, however hard the work.
This holds true for careers also. No one thing or person can deliver every need and desire. Where might you be unfairly placing expectations and pressure in order to alleviate another area that feels lacking?